Ranting Addict

If I were given a chance to recommend a book for everyone to read, I would choose this book, 'The Courage to be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga' There's a lot of things that we can gain benefits by this book, I can guarantee that. It teaches us on how to view things differently by a simple approach and in an organized way to sort the things out in our life.  One of the concept that still stick in my head is about disliking or hating someone.   They portrayed it in this way - hating someone is just temporary. What stays is that, the aim of hate. You think that you need to hate that one person because of what he did in the past, so you decided to find anything negative that related to that person so that you could fulfill the aim, to continuously hate the person. Well if you ask me, how is this important though?  I guess the idea suggests on how to sort the things out in our head so that we can have a better idea on  how our emotions and logics work....

I want to share something that I found on Tumblr.  Al-‘Abbās, the uncle of the Prophet ﷺ, came to the Prophet and said: “Ya Rasūlullāh, teach me a du'ā’.”  The Prophet ﷺ said:  “O my uncle, say:  أَلًْلّٰهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسأَلُكَ أَلًْعَافِيَةً   Allāhumma inni asaluka al-‘āfiyah  (O Allāh, I ask you for ‘āfiyah).” What is ‘āfiyah?  ‘Āfiyah means: To save me from any afflictions.  To be healthy you are in ‘āfiyah.  To have enough money you are in ‘āfiyah.  To have your children protected you are in ‘āfiyah.  And if you are forgiven and not punished you are in ‘āfiyah". Āfiyah means: “O Allāh, protect me from any pain and suffering.” (This includes dunya and ākhirah) Al-'Abbās thought about this for a while, and then he came back after a few days and said: “Ya Rasūlullāh ﷺ, this du'ā’ seems a little short. I want something big.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “My dear uncle, ask Allāh ﷻ for 'āfiyah for wallāhi, you cannot be given anything b...

Sufyan ath-Thawri (Allah have mercy on him) said: "Do not speak about three things: sins, good deeds, and pain. This is indeed the true patience." Source: Abu Nu'aym in his Hilyat al-Awliya, No. 9397.

I guess marriage is not what I used to picture it in my head when I was a kid. It's not what have been portrayed in the romance movies and dramas. It's not what have been written in the novels. It's not like what have been showed by the celebrities and influencers about how blissful and lovely their  marriage are, on social media. Marriage is actually way more deeper and meaningful than that.  Love. I once think that we only get married to the person that we're in love with. The one that gets us head over heels all the time.  But now, I learnt that, the so-called 'love' is not that important to start a marriage. Enough with just the willingness to stay committed to each other (and somewhat attraction is maybe necessary). And love will come later, when the commitment is nurtured with the care and toleration.  Family. I once think that marriage is such a bless when you're having another big family that will treat you like a family. (Eh?...

Procrastination. Sounds familiar, isn't it? You have a list of tasks to deal with, but instead - you just there, rearranging your books on the shelf. You have assignments to submit in a week time, but you're creating a cute bed for your new kitten. You need to contribute your part for group-work project, but instead you just cleaning and washing your bed-sheet for the second time of the week. You said you want to keep updating your blog, but yet, there - all the drafts that never made up to the public view. Familiar now? hm-mm. As most people claimed, procrastination is laziness? Well, I don't think so. Yes, the tasks are not done, but look at what you got? A tidy bookshelf, a cute bed for your cute kitten, a clean bed-sheet for you to sleep comfortably, and drafts on your blog that shows you actually have ideas and intentions to-do-so but-you-didn't. Aren't that cool? aha.  So.. if you think about it closely, procrastination doesn't actually equal to laziness o...